3 signs why you might be in an unhealthy relationship:
A relationship can be tricky at times, the temptation of coming back to someone, and having someone to be emotionally and physically intimate with making us overlook a lot of things, that we would’ve thought of as appalling, otherwise. Every relation has its hurdles and impediments to overcome. But sometimes, we get so engrossed and dependent on a certain cycle of things, that we willingly oversee the other aspects dulling our life. Day by day, making us regress in every facet of our life, including self-love and confidence. That’s when you should be concerned about possibly being in an unhealthy relationship.
There are many types of unhealthy relationships, and we’ll be focusing on romantic ones here, but these conditions can be applied to any general relationship.
Here are three things that deserve a second glance, and much pondering as they may be the first signs of an unhealthy relationship.
Forcing a Change — the difference between a healthy and unhealthy relationship:
A relationship, no matter of what type, is all about accepting people as who they are, with their flaws and faults included.
Wanting to mold a person according to your needs and desire inflicts damage not on the relationship alone, but the people themselves too. What your partner wants to see you in, where they want to hang out, with whom do they want you to associate — all these things might not agree with what YOU want for yourself.
If a person truly cares about you and your self-growth, they won’t force their likes and dislikes on you but will work to accept you as you are. Few words of encouragement to break you out of your comfort zone and explore more are different from wanting to control and invade every aspect of your life, not giving you any space of sorts.
If you feel any of these situations apply to what you currently have, you might want to distance yourself and have an honest conversation with your partner. If they still don’t understand or change their ways, it might be time to end this unhealthy relationship.
Give and take — A way to manage unhealthy relationships:
A relationship is all about balance. You can’t expect your partner to give and give without returning anything in return. The same goes the other way, giving too much to the point of wearying yourself out is not okay.
This includes little things such as: Do you take turns deciding which movie to watch on date night? Do you alternate between deciding what take-out to order? Do you make time to hang out with each other’s friends and families on an equal footing?
The answer to all these little things will lead you to know if you and your partner value fairness or if what you have is an unhealthy relationship.
Mutual respect — something that an unhealthy relation lacks:
Mutual respect is one of the key characters for identifying if you’re relationship is heading in the right course or not. If you or your partner challenge each other’s boundaries — that’s a big red flag.
Respecting each other not only means to refrain from reflecting your partner in a bad light, in public and private, but it also includes respecting them as an individual, with their own views, dreams, way of life, limits, and beliefs.
If giving backhanded compliments and making jokes at each other’s expanse is classified as funny, that’s unquestionably a big bold UNHEALTHY. You might want to sit down and have a straightforward and sincere conversation, on how you find certain things hurtful, and how not to make a joke out of them in the future. If that doesn’t work out, it’s a very toxic relationship and you might want to get out of it fast.
Hope this helped, and you were able to figure out the faults in your and your partner’s behavior. Make sure to end whatever relationship you have if it’s unhealthy and amends can’t be made. You deserve to be treated well and valued. Stay safe and happy!
